My list simply as a jump starts for remembering proven strategies of your own (continuation): Do free writing. Free writing, or writing in a journal, can mean letting feelings flood a piece of paper in a great, gushing torrent. Once they are out, you are likely to feel much better. If you write for long enough, practical solutions can surface that you didnâ€™t know you had in you.
The reason for all the copies is that when youâ€™re feeling down, youâ€™re likely to forget that anything has ever helped bring your spirits up. Keeping your list near all the places youâ€™re apt to be means youâ€™re likely to see it even when youâ€™re not looking for it.
Keep a roster of your proven strategies for feeling betterâ€¦. Just doing something can break the doom-and-gloom cycle. If you think of it, you already have at your disposal a cadre of solutions to use when youâ€™re feeling down. Youâ€™ve called on them before, and they work. They suit you and the circumstances of your life.
Honoring your sexual expression is one part of the equation. Honoring yourself when youâ€™re not in a relationship is the other. You can use the time when there is not a romantic partner in your life to fall more deeply in love with yourself and with God.
Youâ€™re most likely to get a relationship like that by creating a life for yourself that is full already. This is true if youâ€™re looking for a relationship or if youâ€™re already in one that you wish were better.
A charmed life is always romantic, whether youâ€™re single and celibate or head-over-heels in love. Romance isnâ€™t waiting for somebody else to leave roses at your door; itâ€™s living with finesse and selectivity.
It results in emotional oddities like feeling angry because loved ones arenâ€™t happy, or letting our fear of losing them overshadow their needs for growth, experience, and self-determination.